Real Women Have Curves
(written for college magazine)
It’s taken me a lot of guts to think of actually writing this article that you are about to read but then when i think about it, i don’t really care about what you think. I am almost twenty years old and for my age i am over-weight. Ever since i was in the seventh grade i have been trying to lose weight and till date i have not been successful at it. I have tried different diets which required a lot of determination. I have been at the gymnasium and tried to stick to a weight-loss regime but then again i have failed. Out of sheer boredom i have for the past two days been reading this book that i bought for myself almost a year ago, just as i finished my ISC exams. The book “the fat girls guide to life” by Wendy Shanker, is about herself and how she went through a series of diets and exercise classes or gym classes and weight treatments and the works to lose weight but at the end, instead of losing weight she had put on more weight than that she initially was.
i didn’t quite agree with some of the things that were written in the book but i do remember something i really liked. It was a quote actually more like a dialogue from the movie “Real Women Have Curves”, it goes something like this...”how dare anyone try to tell me what i should look like or what i should be, when there’s so much more to me than just my weight!” This is going to be my anthem from today onwards... i mean isn’t it so true? Ask me and i will surely agree with this!
Why do people over react to others being over-weight or obese! We fat people surely don’t say things like “oh my god! Look how skinny she is, she needs to put on a few pounds!”
why do people have to push us to lose weight, i know deep inside , we’re dying to come out from under the flab but hello it takes a lot of control and determination to decide that from today i will work out, i will go on that Atkins diet which unfortunately or fortunately doesn’t happen over-night. does it? Obviously whoever pushes us cares and loves us a lot but my question is if you say you love and care for us so much, why can’t you accept us for who we are and not want we look like? Today’s generation really doesn’t care about what they look like, i know i don’t because to an extent i believe in myself and i know how to carry myself off.
Somebody once told me that ‘the bigger the person you are, the bigger the heart you have’.
What i don’t understand is why being fat is such a problem. Why would anyone want to be judged because he or she is fat or thin? I wouldn’t but i know to an extent i am. Honestly like i said before, i have tried, okay so i haven’t pushed myself but i know that one day eventually i will push myself to work at losing weight. I know it will be difficult initially but it’s not impossible. Honestly i feel a little hypocritical right now, but that’s because i’m writing all this and I’ve not done an ounce about losing weight.( I mean today otherwise i have begun to cycle and do a little exercise whenever i have the time. )
Now that i have realized how diverted i got while writing, here’s what i actually want to say. I love the idea of being able to see a totally new “me” in the mirror every morning when i get up, but since im still trying to push myself to lose weight. I hate the idea that when i love making new friends i don’t have the right amount of confidence to go and start up a random conversation with them. I love the idea of my friends being there for me through, even more my family. But i hate the idea that sometimes , i am not at all confident about who i am which leads to my being a little low. I love the idea that nowadays people love themselves for who they are and not what they look like, i do too. But i hate the idea of how people look you up and down and give you this weird expression which has “ oh my god, how fat is she” written all over it!
I am not asking for attention, nor am i asking for an over-night makeover (which would be nice) but I’m asking the people out there who are reading this right now, when you see a fat girl pass by don’t think she’s some weird space alien but instead give her a smile, let her feel like she’s another normal human being. Those of you who have friends, who are fat, love them for who they are and not what they look like. It’s about time that you give us fat people a break from calling us names especially fatty or motu... because hey we already know what we are. Instead of calling us names why in the world can’t you just be a friend for who we are and not what we look like and this one’s for those girls who’re probably like me... it’s okay to be fat and be happy. It’s okay if that cute guy you like doesn’t acknowledge your presence because if he doesn’t notice you or talk to you then he’s not worth the trouble (especially if you’re trying to lose weight for him).
So the next time anyone sees a fat girl or anyone else fat, “weight” till you get to know them, then pass your judgement because you are not perfect nor is anyone in the world. To end this, here’s a little something to boost up the confidence levels of those who lack it, be confident and love yourself the way you are, don’t be ashamed of who you are or how you look because at the end of the day it all comes down to us. In my case, I’d like to say this just for the girls... no matter what shape or size you are, one thing to remember is that real women have curves.
(written for college magazine)
It’s taken me a lot of guts to think of actually writing this article that you are about to read but then when i think about it, i don’t really care about what you think. I am almost twenty years old and for my age i am over-weight. Ever since i was in the seventh grade i have been trying to lose weight and till date i have not been successful at it. I have tried different diets which required a lot of determination. I have been at the gymnasium and tried to stick to a weight-loss regime but then again i have failed. Out of sheer boredom i have for the past two days been reading this book that i bought for myself almost a year ago, just as i finished my ISC exams. The book “the fat girls guide to life” by Wendy Shanker, is about herself and how she went through a series of diets and exercise classes or gym classes and weight treatments and the works to lose weight but at the end, instead of losing weight she had put on more weight than that she initially was.
i didn’t quite agree with some of the things that were written in the book but i do remember something i really liked. It was a quote actually more like a dialogue from the movie “Real Women Have Curves”, it goes something like this...”how dare anyone try to tell me what i should look like or what i should be, when there’s so much more to me than just my weight!” This is going to be my anthem from today onwards... i mean isn’t it so true? Ask me and i will surely agree with this!
Why do people over react to others being over-weight or obese! We fat people surely don’t say things like “oh my god! Look how skinny she is, she needs to put on a few pounds!”
why do people have to push us to lose weight, i know deep inside , we’re dying to come out from under the flab but hello it takes a lot of control and determination to decide that from today i will work out, i will go on that Atkins diet which unfortunately or fortunately doesn’t happen over-night. does it? Obviously whoever pushes us cares and loves us a lot but my question is if you say you love and care for us so much, why can’t you accept us for who we are and not want we look like? Today’s generation really doesn’t care about what they look like, i know i don’t because to an extent i believe in myself and i know how to carry myself off.
Somebody once told me that ‘the bigger the person you are, the bigger the heart you have’.
What i don’t understand is why being fat is such a problem. Why would anyone want to be judged because he or she is fat or thin? I wouldn’t but i know to an extent i am. Honestly like i said before, i have tried, okay so i haven’t pushed myself but i know that one day eventually i will push myself to work at losing weight. I know it will be difficult initially but it’s not impossible. Honestly i feel a little hypocritical right now, but that’s because i’m writing all this and I’ve not done an ounce about losing weight.( I mean today otherwise i have begun to cycle and do a little exercise whenever i have the time. )
Now that i have realized how diverted i got while writing, here’s what i actually want to say. I love the idea of being able to see a totally new “me” in the mirror every morning when i get up, but since im still trying to push myself to lose weight. I hate the idea that when i love making new friends i don’t have the right amount of confidence to go and start up a random conversation with them. I love the idea of my friends being there for me through, even more my family. But i hate the idea that sometimes , i am not at all confident about who i am which leads to my being a little low. I love the idea that nowadays people love themselves for who they are and not what they look like, i do too. But i hate the idea of how people look you up and down and give you this weird expression which has “ oh my god, how fat is she” written all over it!
I am not asking for attention, nor am i asking for an over-night makeover (which would be nice) but I’m asking the people out there who are reading this right now, when you see a fat girl pass by don’t think she’s some weird space alien but instead give her a smile, let her feel like she’s another normal human being. Those of you who have friends, who are fat, love them for who they are and not what they look like. It’s about time that you give us fat people a break from calling us names especially fatty or motu... because hey we already know what we are. Instead of calling us names why in the world can’t you just be a friend for who we are and not what we look like and this one’s for those girls who’re probably like me... it’s okay to be fat and be happy. It’s okay if that cute guy you like doesn’t acknowledge your presence because if he doesn’t notice you or talk to you then he’s not worth the trouble (especially if you’re trying to lose weight for him).
So the next time anyone sees a fat girl or anyone else fat, “weight” till you get to know them, then pass your judgement because you are not perfect nor is anyone in the world. To end this, here’s a little something to boost up the confidence levels of those who lack it, be confident and love yourself the way you are, don’t be ashamed of who you are or how you look because at the end of the day it all comes down to us. In my case, I’d like to say this just for the girls... no matter what shape or size you are, one thing to remember is that real women have curves.
